What is Ontological Coaching?
Ontological Coaching takes an in-depth exploration into who you are being. Before we jump into action, we distinguish the intentions and beliefs that drive your current actions. From there, together, we identify what needs to be added, removed or transformed in your life in order to realize your most sacred dreams.
I believe that every single human being holds unique magic inside of them, just waiting to be birthed into the world. When we realize the powerful affect we have on each other, the environment and the world, we are able to take full responsibility for how we choose to show up. Every time we are able to choose love over fear, possibilities over barriers and abundance over scarcity the whole world wins. Let's make magic, together.
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
Ontological Performance Coaching ◆ INTENTIONS ◆ BELIEFS ◆ ACTIONS
Fear Vs Love
Everything can be boiled down to having a foundation of love or fear, scarcity or abundance. We will regularly dig deep together to discover what foundations dictate your life, what fears still have their grip on you and what holds you back from living in magnificent joy. We will distinguish facts from stories and you will learn, through dedicated and committed practice, how you can be and live every audacious dream you can imagine. This path is truly for the courageous warrior ready to powerfully choose their life.
Surround yourself with people whose basement is your ceiling.
Rev. David Bruner
Ontological Performance Coach
Walking on fire transformed part of me that I did not know could transform.
Most people know me as a woman who fills a room with energy, love and joy. They know me as a woman that values integrity in my relationships and helping people discover what matters most to them, usually through play and connection.
I am all too familiar with shame, powerlessness and not good enoughs.
By my teenage years I was well acquainted with dysfunction, the impact of addiction and trauma. The level of shame I felt was overwhelming. By sixteen, I decided that would not be my story. As a high school dropout, I would not be a statistic that I was headed to become, so I moved from California to New York and vowed to rewrite the ending. I restarted highschool, participated in a culture club that created safe, inclusive environments for foreign students, taught Choice Theory to teachers and administrators and earned a leadership award for the whole county. I graduated with honors at nearly twenty years old, several years senior to most of my peers.
By twenty, I moved back to California.
Over the following decade I nurtured a 10 year relationship and married my best friend. Then, by thirty, I realized our commitments were no longer the same and I filed for divorce. I was a wreck. I didn't understand how we got there. We were planning a family and my world seemed to cave in on itself. The following five years I began to get my sea legs back, developed an even deeper sense of self love, addressed my trauma, and met the love of my life. I began to unpack the unconscious stories and beliefs that were holding me back. I developed a relationship with my inner child who so desperately wanted to please people, be acknowledged, manage chaos, be the hero, have all the answers and never be abandoned. Boy was that baby a mess! And yet, the surface was me being busy, fixing problems, managing chaos and being a mother hen. I was a pro at having the right answers and creating order. I found that I was still ending up in situations were I felt exploited, overrun, overwhelmed and unloved. I knew in order to have a different life, again, I had to reach far,far outside my comfort zone, dig deep, and get in new communities.
In 2016, I walked on fire.
In 2017, I hired a professional coach to help guide me
In 2018, joined a spiritual community and found my god (Love)
In 2018, I went on a retreat with an incredible mentor that I love and adore
I devoted myself to classes and groups specifically designed to address my core beliefs
Under the transformative guidance of Hans Phillips, I trained in the art of Ontology, or the being of a human being. With 27 years of coaching in his toolbox, Hans has been an invaluable resource to me and my skills as a coach. I continue to be guided by him, stretched by his insight and clearer in my beingness everyday. This was the piece that had eluded me for three decades! Who was I being?! I discovered more depths by joining a retreat led by Dr.Tererai Trent and opened up a deep wisdom within my soul that comforts my inner child. The two together, mixed with the transformative nature of community brought me to a place where I can confidently guide others out of the fog.
I still fail brilliantly, but now my center is guided by deep love, profound connection and divine humanity. I pepper in some good belly laughs, meditation and childlike play because it's just more fun that way!
If any of my path resonates with you then we should have a conversation.
Photo Courtesy of Suzette Hibble
Firewalking in Downtown Denver
"Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up."
Brené Brown, Rising Strong
My Clients & My Promise
My client’s have known hardship. They're also high performers and passionate about their dreams. They're creatives, entrepreneurs, leaders and parents with an unstoppable mission to live a designed life.
Just like an Olympic athlete has a trainer to push their limits we all need someone in our corner holding us accountable for what we're capable of being.
I block out uninterrupted, devoted, sacred space so you can grow into the divinity you are meant to be.